What no one told us about our 20's
When I, as a part of this microwave generation (and no stranger to the strain that experiencing death at a young age can put on choices of longevity), step back from the ledge of experience frenzy I realize that I am at the core of a very pivotal point in my life. I am at the middle of the beginning. I am at an age where I find myself untethered to most things. I have no children. I have no house payments. I am more free in my ability to pursue my dreams now than I have been or might ever be in the future.
As I stand here, the cool breeze of possibilities caressing my cheeks, I ask myself again, "What do I see for my future?" and "How will my choices today, and tomorrow position me for success in those dreams/goals?". These questions are so important to the realization I came to a few days ago: Your 20's are for building.
Yes, your 20's are the building block years of your future, but there is something they didn't tell us, too. Something that is pivotal for our growth, for our sanity: Your 20's might be for building, but as a seeker, a dreamer, a visionary, you will spend your entire life building. Now is the time for honing your vision for your future years. These are the years where we have the freedom to try, try and try again. To search, explore and play. We have the ability to test the waters and find which brings us the most life, the path in which we thrive. Each step, each day, each conversation, each laugh is a block in which we build a foundation to launch off of.
Some of us pull together that foundation and clear vision sooner than others, able to go hard in our direction of choice. Some of us are entering the second half of our 20's thinking, "I still have no idea what I want to do" but I bet you know what you don't want to do, which is exactly my point. relax. Allow yourself the time it takes to find your niche, and don't let it stop there. If you hit that beautiful 30 and you are still working toward identifying where you come alive, that is okay too! You are an explorer and have found area's that you wanted/needed to spend more time learning in. Your transition season will come, when you will either climb up onto the platform you've been building, or find the next block you need.
Either way, trust the process.
Here are a few ways to make the most of our freedom years:
- IDENTIFY YOUR PASSIONS
What makes your heart beat fast? What area's of your life make you feel most alive? When do you feel that voiceless pull deep within your chest? If you aren't sure, that is okay! Take some time this week to look for those moments in your life.
- MAKE A BUILDERS LIST
These are the things that you want to build or help make stronger that are founded on your passions. They can be businesses you want to start, books your want to write, places you want to travel, people you want to work with or organizations you want to partner with.
Correy Ferrugia, an incredible artist, songwriter and social entreprenuer, brought me to the realization that everything in life is either a "yes", "no" or "not now" and each of those are both powerful and freeing. Using the power of yes, no and not now we are able to prioritize projects, people and opportunity in a way that focuses our potential and expedites our growth. What is the next step that will position me to grow toward the things on my list?
- PERSERVERE & BE FLUID
Dude. It's hard. I know. Trust Me, I know. But we can do this. Buckle down, make your list and go for gold. Use it as your guideposts and mile markers, and whenever you feel a bit foggy or confused, lay down, remind yourself are on a journey of learning and that there is no right or wrong answer, there is only growth. Sometimes new paths are going to pop up, too, and sometimes those are going to be the resounding "Yes" for that season. It's okay to try something new whether you are 20, 30, 50 or 80, just remember your passions and be true to those!